About Idol Marriage

I'm always sad whenever my idols get married.

Some people often consider it as pathetic, sad, or "halu". The most common argument that they use are:
1. Like you have a chance with her
2. You should be happy for her

My reason is actually completely logical. The one that "halu" is actually those people.

Let take Kana Hanazawa as example, a seiyuu idol, which she got married recently (sad noises). In my mind, there are two parts of Her:
1. Kanahana as entertainer
2. Kanahana as a person

Everything that can be consumed by public, whether it's her voice acting, singing, acting, even tweeting or any activity that known by public, are done by Kanahana as entertainer (no 1). This Kanahana is "owned" by public. You are free to praise her for her work, or criticize, or love her, whatever. That's how it's supposed to be.

The second part of her is Kanahana as a person. This side is unknown to public. We don't "own" this Kanahana, and we know nothing about it. She can be married to anyone, she can have completely different personality, she can do whatever she wants really. We, don't have any rights to do anything about this Kanahana. Some people like to pry to this part, then judge her for that. I'm not like that, I'm not "halu"

Then, why I am sad when her got married?
It's simply because my egoistic side as a fan. It's common that when people are married especially in Japan, they will take less work. They focus will be shifted from work to family.

In short, less Kanahana as entertainer, more Kanahana as a person.

My portion of Kanahana that I "owned" is reduced. Less content of her that I can enjoy. Furthermore, the marriage probably will affect the Kanahana as entertainer. Maybe it will be affecting her interaction with her friends. Not because she want to change, but you cannot joke about yuri anymore once you married right? Not only the portion is reduced, the content will probably changed also. Some content that I might love so much from her.

So, regarding the common arguments from people that judge people that sad when their idol is getting married,

1. Like you have a chance with her
I don't. I know from beginning. Marriage belong to Kanahana as person, which I don't touch from beginning. How about you?

2. You should be happy for her
I'm her fan, not her mom. I don't act like I have any personal relation with her. How about you?